Meet the Writer

Hello Friends!

Writing about myself is probably THE HARDEST thing for me to do. I guess I don’t feel too interesting. But here’s my best shot at it!

My name is Deitra and a few of the hats I wear are child of God, wife, mom, home educator and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I am California born and raised, now residing in Texas. I use to work extremely hard to climb the non-profit ladder and please others. Now, I am a proud employee and servant of the Lord. It’s not always easy, but I am thankful to serve our gracious and merciful God as my employer and boss.

A Woman of Many Hats

One of the most important hats I wear is that of a wife. I am married to Kevin, my college sweet heart and best friend. He encourages me, challenges me, supports me, and makes me better. I have never felt so free to be me until I married this man. I have to admit, we make a pretty dope team!

Our parenting journey began as house parents, with having a hand in raising 6+ pre-teen to teenage boys. Although that journey is over, together we now share the joys and challenges of shepherding and home-educating two beautiful children of our own.

Besides marriage, parenting has been another hat that stretches and grows me in so many ways. I never realized how much my heart breaks for children, until I was blessed with the gift of raising my own.

Kev and I never imagined being home educators, and in fact, we were completely against it prior to having kids. When anyone mentioned homeschooling, we immediately would reply, “No. Not for us!” When we both agreed to homeschool, there was no doubt in my mind that this was the Lord’s will.

Our first year of homeschooling, I cried, I prayed , I struggled, I prayed, and by God’s grace we made it! It definitely was a beautiful mess. Even into our second year, some days I struggle to survive. In spite of ongoing feelings of inadequacy, I can honestly say that being able to homeschool has been a blessing.

Now, I have to admit that I was happy and satisfied wearing what I thought was my child of God hat, prior to wearing the hats mentioned above. I never HAD to be married, and definitely was okay with not having any children. As I have continued to grow spiritually, I have now realize that I was and can be a bit selfish.

I am so glad we serve an all-knowing father who doesn’t always give us, what we think we want for our lives. I can not imagine life without my family. Without being a wife and mother, I seriously would have missed out on SO much. I now have a new perspective of this hat, and I am thankful God never allows me to be complacent with the same old look of it. This hat is the one that has the biggest affect on all the others.

Last but not least, I FINALLY have the privilege of wearing the hat of a licensed marriage and family therapist! This was one of the longest journeys Ive ever embarked upon, and it is only by God’s grace that I wear this hat. I use to have plans to wear this hat with pride, but I humbly submit my plans for wearing it unto the Lord.

All of the previous hats I wear daily. This is one that I have hanging on the hat rack, desiring only to wear it if and when the Lord desires for me to do so. I guess you can say that I now see it as more of an accessory, whereas before it was going to be the biggest and best hat I would ever wear.

As I pray about how I can share this hat with other women, wives and moms, I am being led to focus on parenting. I was previously trained in behavior modification, and was taught to eat, sleep, and potty this approach to parenting. After having my own children, I was lead to the concept of heart shepherding. I am an advocate and fan of scripture based parenting, which I believe incorporates both. I encourage modeling and discipling, and desire to help other parents, “train up their children in the way that they should go, so that when they are older they won’t depart from it.”

The End

I believe that children are God’s precious gifts to us, and it is our responsibility to teach them in the ways of the Lord. If this is something I can help you with, please don’t hesitate to let me know by leaving a comment or emailing me at deitra@theteachingwife.com.

Thank you so much for allowing me to share with you some of my favorite hats. I appreciate you taking time out of your busy schedule to get to know little old me. As much as I try to keep each hat I wear crisp and clean, at times they get bent out of shape and need some reshaping. If this sounds like you, join me on this journey by subscribing below. Feel free to browse around and come back as often as you’d like.

Five Interesting Facts about Me

I love working out. In the moment, not so much. But when its all said and done, I feel like a champion!

We are a vegetarian/vegan eating family, mostly due to allergies. Combined, my children are fighting allergies to dairy, egg, wheat, soy, tree nuts, peanuts, and sesame seed.

School was very challenging for me, from elementary through graduate school.

I serve as children’s ministry director at my church.

Sweets are my weakness.