12 May Celebrate You Vs. Honoring Your Mother
Another Day to Celebrate Me!
I was so excited for my first Mother’s Day! I couldn’t wait to celebrate being a mom with my husband and Son. In my imagination, the day would be all about me. We were going to do whatever I wanted to do, plans or no plans.
My Embarrassing Confession
Selfishly, I had forgotten about my mother and my mother in-love.
Even after I thought about them, I assumed they celebrated enough years of Mother’s Day. It was now my turn to be celebrated.
Each year, as I felt entitled to the day (and my husband did a great job with making sure I felt loved and celebrated), I would have to share with either my mom or my mom in-love. My expectations were that I’d have the day to myself. Every time, I was wrong.
Often times, I became irritated with the fact that Mother’s Day was not solely about me. It was still a day that I too would have to share and do what my Mother or Mother in-love wanted to do.
The pitty parties would become real. My husband would ask me what I wanted to do for mothers day, and I would respond, “I don’t know, ask our mothers “. He would then try to comfort me and let me know the day was about me too, but I wasn’t having it.
Why couldn’t we spend the day celebrating me?
Did we always have to do what our mothers wanted us to do?
Why was it that on Mother’s Day, I was still caught in the people pleasing trap?
Was I so wrong for wanting to do what pleased me?
Both my mother and mother in-love never complained nor wanted to highjack the day. It was always my own preconceived thoughts.
Choosing to Honor my Mothers
“Honor your father and mother”–which is the first commandment with a promise-
~ Ephesians 6:2
As I matured, I came to realize that Mother’s Day is for me to celebrate my Mothers. How thankful I am now that my Mothers are still alive and well enough to be celebrated. For as long as I can, I now desire to spend Mother’s Day with my mothers, and consider it a blessing to be able to do so.
So yes, if you are a mother, Mother’s Day is about you. But, while you still have your Mother and/or Mother In-Love around, celebrate them. Even if it means serving them, and putting your own selfish desires to the side to do what is pleasing to them. Honestly, you don’t know how long you will have to enjoy them. Don’t take the time you have to truly honor them for granted.
I can’t take back those years I selfishly desired for the day to be all about me, but I can thank God for his grace and mercy, and allowing me another opportunity to get it right.
Without my mother and mother in-love, I would not be the person I am today. And, I definitely wouldn’t be where I am today. Sitting here with the time, space, and opportunity to write, homeschool, serve in children’s ministry, help my daughter with her tutu business, pour into my family… and the list goes on. My mothers inspire and encourage me daily! For them both, I am forever grateful.
I owe EVERY day to my Mothers and I delight in serving them every opportunity I get.
“For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” ~ Mark 10:45
What will you choose this Mother’s Day?
Will you make sure your husband and children make the day all about you and serving you, or will you enjoy spending time with and serving your mother and/or mother in-love? Maybe you will choose to do a little bit of both.
Here are some tips to help you guys enjoy the day together:
- Involve your mothers in the planning for the day
- Decide on one activity you want to do, and one activity your mothers want to do
- Get both moms together for a fun activity
- Take mommy photos with your mothers
- Talk with your husband about plans to serve you and your mothers
- Consider it a blessing to have and be with your mother
- Model a servants heart for your children
Happy Mother’s Day Mamas!!!