07 May Working Mom VS. Stay-at-Home Mom
For almost 3 years, I’ve wrestled with the pros and cons to each of these. As much as I want to be home and present for my children, I have also felt a need to contribute financially to our household income. I not only want to influence my own children and family, I also feel this desire to contribute to my community and society as a whole.
New Mom Goals
When we had our son, we lived and worked in a group home, so I was able to be “at home” while working. After leaving our group home lifestyle, I remained home with our son, while we were “figuring things out”I actually had this new found desire in my heart to stay home with our son. Growing up in a working family, I never imagined wanting to stay home. I had been taught that you must work hard (outside of the home), in order to have and provide for your family.
In my mind it all made sense. Work hard, earn an income, provide for your family.
As my husband and I decided to try a different way of doing things, the pressure was on. The financial strain became more than we were ready to bare. We didn’t have the patient endurance necessary to live the life we now desired to live as parents.
We had a lot of growing to do
I returned to the Working Mom role, but because my husband was just starting his business, our son was able to stay home with him.
At least one of us would be able to stay home, while contributing to our income.
By the time our second child came along, not much had changed. I was working on-call trying to climb the non-profit ladder. My husband was still building his business while taking on the primary caregiver role. We were eventually blessed with an amazing nanny, but knew we wanted more for our family.
We wanted something different.
Working outside of the home began to grow less appealing. The stress and time away from my children just didn’t seem worth it. To be honest, I sucked at being a wife and mom.
Ready for what God had in store
I remember coming to a place where I told the Lord I was ready. Ready to stop chasing someone else’s dreams. I was ready to listen to God’s plan, and stop trying create my own plans.
Shortly after, I left my job and we moved to Texas. It was in Texas that I became a stay-at-home wife.
Life as a stay-at-home wife
Initially, things were tough. And honestly, I still have my good and not-so-good days. But, throughout this process, God has continued to change my heart.
Like the working mom life, there are pros and cons to being at home. One thing that has changed is my priorities. It is because of my priorities, and desire to walk in obedience, that I believe the Lord is showing me how to blend both the working mom life with the stay-at-home Mom life.
I was a working mom who tried to do many things in my own way. I then became a stay-at-home Mom learning to surrender to God’s way. Now I have the joys of obediently being a work-at-home mom, and I’m excited.
It has been a process, but I’m so thankful for God’s patience and love towards me.
I want to encourage you to do whatever you do in obedience to Christ. If you are a stay-at-home Mom with a desire or need to contribute to your household income, know that there are many ways to do so. Being a work-at-home mom is an option for you.
Here are just a few ideas to get your mind going. But make sure you seek God for direction.
- Use your gifts to bless others. If you are a great teacher, offer tutoring or teaching to others. If you play an instrument, offer lessons to others. Are you into health and nutrition? Offer your services to others. The gifts you’ve been given aren’t for you, but for you to bless others.
I encourage you to pray and explore more options. Talk to other people. You’d be surprised to hear how so many people make it work.
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Don’t give up. Keep walking in faith. God is sure to provide.