02 May Homeschool Vs. Schooling at Home
I talk to a lot of homeschooling Mamas who often feel a lot of pressure to stick to a certain schedule. They try to make sure their children are progressing at a certain pace, and do their best to keep up with school district standards.
Guilty as Charged
I have to admit, I started off in the same place. And, if I can be honest, I often find myself drifting back to this place.
Having received a public school education, it’s what most of us are familiar with.
It’s all I know!
It comes so natural to compare my children’s progress or lack thereof with public school ways.
I have absolutely nothing against public, private, or any other educational setting. I think that a child has the ability to thrive in any given environment, with the proper support.
But, as a homeschooling Mama, I have come to realize that depending on why you are homeschooling, schooling at home may not be for you and your child.
My Beginning (The Shortened Version)
Trying to school at home, I was a reck. I tried to begin school at 8:00am each morning, and end by noon for lunch. After noon, I would have more school work for us to do, because I still hadn’t met my six hour school day quota. My child wasn’t getting it, and all he wanted to do was play. I quickly found myself frustrated and needing to take multiple time-outs per day.
I prayed and prayed, and thats when I felt the Lord showing me our heart issues. Not only did my child have heart issues that needed to be addressed, but God wanted to work on me as well.
I put down the curriculum that had been given to us, and was led to Christ Centered Curriculum. This is what I would use to help build my children’s character and address heart issues, while providing them with the education they would need.
I also spoke with my godmother, who so gently pointed out to me this issue of homeschooling versus schooling at home. Because of her wise counsel, I’ve had many opportunities to share and encourage other homeschooling families.
Homeschooling and Schooling at Home Similarities
Both homeschooling and schooling at home, involve educating children inside the home. The home education is usually provided by a parent or tutor.
What’s the difference?
When I speak of schooling at home, this involves schooling the exact way it’s done outside of the home, just in a home setting. It’s sticking to the way things are normally done; As we know them to be.
Homeschooling on the other hand involves adapting to the needs of your child. It means being flexible and going at your child’s pace. Not trying to fit them into a certain grade level box, but embracing their areas of strength and development. Most importantly, when I talk about homeschooling, it involves being led by the Holy Spirit to teach what God desires for your child to learn.
It can be difficult to stay focused on your homeschooling goals. There’s so much spoken and unspoken pressure to ensure your child performs at a certain level.
It’s also very difficult not to fall into the schooling at home trap when this is truly all you know.
If you are homeschooling because of a calling, remember these 6 things, and constantly seek the Lord for guidance:
- Do not compare your school day to someone else’s.
- Don’t feel like your school day has to take you 6 hours!
- Do not compare your children to someone else’s.
- Remember that the way you were taught or the environment you were taught in, is just one way of doing things. There is more than one way!
- Surround yourself with likeminded individuals.
- Pray! Seek the Lord for guidance.
Whether you decide to school your children at home or to homeschool, be mindful of the comparison trap and try not to get stuck in it. Comparing can have the most detrimental affects on the progress of your journey.
Stay focused on the way you’ve been led to, and try not to give into the ways and patterns of the world (Romans 12:2).
Choose to embrace your unique journey, and do what is best for you, your child, and your family.