Superwoman: Do It All Vs. Rest

Superwoman: Do It All Vs. Rest

At the Home of Martha and Mary

38 As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. 39 She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. 40 But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!” 41 “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, 42 but few things are needed—or indeed only one.[a] Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” ~ Luke 10: 38-42

As I lie here in bed, thinking about all the things I “need” to do, my body, my baby, and perhaps even the Lord are telling me I need to rest.

I don’t have time for this. I have things to do!

My husband says this is my favorite saying. In fact he says when I die he will have engraved on my tombstone,

“She had to go. She had things to do!”

We laugh, but sadly it’s true. I ALWAYS have things to do. I think I’m being nudged to share this because as mamas, it’s reality for most of us.

Like Martha, we get so busy and caught up in our To Do List, that we forget to include sitting, resting, and giving it all to Jesus.

When we are sick, we push through. Even when we are tired, we push through. We try to give it our all, when there’s no more of our all left to give. And often there’s no more left to give simply because we didn’t prioritize sitting, resting, and giving to Jesus.


Not realizing what we are doing, in so many ways, our actions say, “we don’t need to Jesus, we can handle it.”

We even teach our children to do it all. We sign them up for every activity, and say yes to every birthday invite. And, let’s not forget today’s pressure to have scheduled play dates. We are here, there and everywhere.

It wasn’t until I started to actually sit with Jesus that I was shown how prideful these superwoman tendencies can be.

Trying to be and do everything for my husband and kids, doesn’t leave much room for Jesus.

Back to Mary and Martha

Now, do I believe Martha was being prideful in her actions?

This is a possibility. It depends on the state of her heart. Was Martha preparing things because she wanted everything to be nice for Jesus, and for Him to feel right at home. Or was it because she wanted the recognition and wanted Jesus to see the kind of housekeeper she was.

The pride can come in when we want others to praise us for our work.

Only Jesus and Martha knew the condition of her heart.

Good or Better

Even when we are busy with good intentions, our good intentions can go wrong if our heart isn’t right.

How do we know if our hearts aren’t right?

When we stop to rest. Stop to sit. And most importantly, when we stop to give Jesus our all, He can and will show us our hearts (Psalm 139: 23-24).

Sometimes we miss God things, being so focused on the good things.

Slow down

There’s so much I’d like to be doing right now. Or even need to be doing. Like finishing our school day, cleaning the kitchen, cooking dinner… and the list goes on. But for some reason, my body is telling me no.

I can chose to be a superwoman and push through the pain, as us mamas so quickly are tempted to do, or I can listen to my body and the promptings of the Holy Spirit, taking some time to rest. I have to push pause on doing the good things, so that I can get well and do the God-things.

Perhaps resting and writing is my attempt at listening and doing the God thing.

My Call to Action

So what am I asking you to do as my partner in this journey?

What do I want you to take away from this?

I am asking you to rest.

Jesus says that we worry about many things, but few things are needed.

I am asking you to choose to take the best care of your body and your family by listening and sitting when necessary. I am asking you to do this because not only will it help you, but it will help your children in the future.

Our actions speak louder than our words. And most of the time, kids don’t have a choice as to how busy their schedules are. We often decide what they will or will not do.

I want you to take this one thing away from reading this:

Resting makes you just as much of a superwoman as getting everything on your To Do List completed.

Both Martha and Mary were equally as super and special to Jesus. It’s all about our hearts and priorities.

Channel your inner superwoman and have a seat!

Deitra B.

I am Deitra Baker, a servant, follower and lover of Christ. I am a wife to one amazing husband, and mother to two of God’s most amazing children...Read More »

  • Ryan Traylor
    Posted at 02:39h, 01 May Reply

    I loved this!! My mom and I were just discussing this exact topic. Such a great point to evaluate your heart on a daily basis. I’m constantly on the move and I tend to get frustrated by people who seem to always be taking a break, but maybe they’re doing life right.

    • Deitra B.
      Posted at 23:46h, 01 May Reply

      Thank you Ryan! So glad you enjoyed it. I’m right here with you!

  • Am
    Posted at 01:28h, 17 May Reply

    This is awesome! I often feel guilty for being tired and wanting to rest even when I’m exhausted. I’m realizing that I’m letting things define my value that shouldn’t. Great post!

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